Working at Bringing Life

I've spoken to several people experiencing transition, enlisting my help to develop a strong corporate wardrobe. While it's a pleasure, there's one thing that's stood out to me about some of those requests, so much so that I want to address it here. That "something" is the way fashion defines how we carry our femininity in the work place.

So get some cookies and milk, and settle in for story-time. :)

Years ago when I lived in Boston, I was offered a job as an Executive Assistant. I love dressing up for work, so I was excited to build a professional wardrobe. My journey revealed a pressure in my mind, however, of wanting to be sure that all I wore was "work-appropriate." Interestingly, appropriate never meant dress-code worthy; it meant fitting cultural norms. We're told that, the more powerful we want to appear, the more our clothing should represent men's clothing while diminishing gentleness. This becomes a slippery slope into becoming "strong" while losing the nurturing heart that women carry so well.

This isn't to say strength opposes kindness. Rather, the way our corporate world defines strength opposes kindness.

So, in my effort to keep from losing myself in the process, I asked God what unique qualities I bring to the workplace. One morning, He revealed something beautiful to me. Our team was heading to our annual NYC-based board meeting, but I felt compelled that morning not to wear the usual business suit. It's like my eyes were newly opened, and I saw strength in what I carry. So I opted for a sleeveless turquoise cowl neck, a flowy white skirt and a brown braided-leather belt. I remember feeling within myself how the bold colors and soft fabrics spoke strength without forcefulness, beauty without compromised dignity, and gentleness without passivity. Once we arrived, I could feel the environment shifting in the board room. I knew God was ushering in healing and kindness within one of the country's largest and oldest companies!

So, what does the real you bring? It's easy, especially in this season, to see what we lack as a nation. But what would you bring if your clothes spoke of your true strength, unhindered? Step out, and you may find yourself embodying the change you long to see in your world!